I totally get and respect what you're saying. And many of the most successful people I know are obsessive as well. Unfortunately many of those people are also miserable in life because they are obsessed with their job and don't have much of an existence outside of it. To keep this on topic, just look at Danny Hurley, who has admitted to having mental health issues, and was not able to enjoy his national championship.
I say all that to say, the most "successful" people I know are the ones who've achieved pure happiness in life. And that usually entails balancing work, family, hobbies and prioritizing mental health. Just my thoughts.