[quote="Marillac" post=341364][quote="SJUFAN2" post=341351][quote="L J S A" post=341328]
It's silly that we can't, but I believe the bulk of the blame lies elsewhere.[/quote]
From a conduct standpoint, there's a difference between being critical of someone, and of being insulting, juvenile and repetitive in that criticism.
Most understand that. Some apparently do not.
If someone isn't getting PM's from mods about it, then they can probably guess which category they fall into on this subject.[/quote]
Yeah because the 2-3 mods that feel the need to interfere are renowned for their equal treatment.
Mullin can have his character questioned daily but no jokes about Hurley kicking Cragg in the nuts — an act that everyone knows didn’t literally happen is just too much. But feel free to call Mullin lazy and say that he stole money from St. John’s without a thought of trying to make us better the same day his brother is buried. That’s totally cool.
I take it back, OhioFan. Cragg has handled everything perfectly. We are so lucky he is captaining this ship.[/quote]
I wasn't going to respond to this because I really don't want to get into a 'back and forth' with you over behavior (yours, others, or my fellow mods), but there are a few things that need to be said here for the benefit of EVERYONE who chooses to post on REDMEN.com.
The folks who choose to moderate this forum do so, and have done so for DECADES, because they love this program and love having a place to come and share thoughts, rumors and connect with people who share the same passion. That's why we all VOLUNTEER to help Paul try to keep things on the rails around here. There are maybe 8 of us that still do this so that Paul isn't overwhelmed to the point he is forced to close the site down.
As Mods, we all have different life experiences. We are all different ages and we all like/dislike different posters on this site. We disagree on a ton of stuff, but one thing we all agree on (besides our passion for this program and our friendship with this sites owner) is our support of our fellow moderators. Nobody is always right, we rarely all agree on the same thing, and we all say and do things in the heat of the moment. However, make no mistake. We all have each others back because we respect the effort we've all put into making this a place for fans to congregate over the years.
When someone like you calls out one moderator, or takes a private conversation with one public in order to smear them, you are calling out and/or smearing ALL of us. How do you think that is perceived on our end? What do you think the result of consistent behavior like that is going to be?
Every poster on this site needs to realize the following and come to grips with it:
Posting here is a privilege, not a right.
You (and I) are guests in this house, and should act accordingly. I wouldn't walk into a gathering at your house and start talking shit about you, your friends, and your family to your guests. Why would you feel the need to do that in my friends 'house'? What kind of a person thinks its OK to do that? What kind of a person thinks they are the aggrieved party when they are politely asked to stop taking a 'piss in the punch bowl' as it were because the host wants everyone to have a good time?
We get that this is an emotional time for us fans. We want to give people freedom to vent a bit and express their opinions and emotions, but make NO mistake...if people can't be respectful and act like an adult then quite frankly, we don't need them here.
So a few words of advice to all who like to be part of this community..."Don't start nothin, won't be nothin."
That said...I have a question (and a suggestion) for you Marillac. I don't want a reply. My question is purely for reflective purposes, but I understand that you will need to have the last word so do what you have to do...
Why do you post here?
You start more crap with other posters and mods than just about anyone on the site. You go to other site(s) to whine about how poorly you are mistreated here and how bad "the mods" are to you and how much the site sucks. What's the point?
Now my suggestion...when you get demoted...and you will eventually...take it as a learning experience and a chance to change your behavior. When you get reinstated, do us all a favor and stay away from the punch bowl.
It's silly that we can't, but I believe the bulk of the blame lies elsewhere.[/quote]
From a conduct standpoint, there's a difference between being critical of someone, and of being insulting, juvenile and repetitive in that criticism.
Most understand that. Some apparently do not.
If someone isn't getting PM's from mods about it, then they can probably guess which category they fall into on this subject.[/quote]
Yeah because the 2-3 mods that feel the need to interfere are renowned for their equal treatment.
Mullin can have his character questioned daily but no jokes about Hurley kicking Cragg in the nuts — an act that everyone knows didn’t literally happen is just too much. But feel free to call Mullin lazy and say that he stole money from St. John’s without a thought of trying to make us better the same day his brother is buried. That’s totally cool.
I take it back, OhioFan. Cragg has handled everything perfectly. We are so lucky he is captaining this ship.[/quote]
I wasn't going to respond to this because I really don't want to get into a 'back and forth' with you over behavior (yours, others, or my fellow mods), but there are a few things that need to be said here for the benefit of EVERYONE who chooses to post on REDMEN.com.
The folks who choose to moderate this forum do so, and have done so for DECADES, because they love this program and love having a place to come and share thoughts, rumors and connect with people who share the same passion. That's why we all VOLUNTEER to help Paul try to keep things on the rails around here. There are maybe 8 of us that still do this so that Paul isn't overwhelmed to the point he is forced to close the site down.
As Mods, we all have different life experiences. We are all different ages and we all like/dislike different posters on this site. We disagree on a ton of stuff, but one thing we all agree on (besides our passion for this program and our friendship with this sites owner) is our support of our fellow moderators. Nobody is always right, we rarely all agree on the same thing, and we all say and do things in the heat of the moment. However, make no mistake. We all have each others back because we respect the effort we've all put into making this a place for fans to congregate over the years.
When someone like you calls out one moderator, or takes a private conversation with one public in order to smear them, you are calling out and/or smearing ALL of us. How do you think that is perceived on our end? What do you think the result of consistent behavior like that is going to be?
Every poster on this site needs to realize the following and come to grips with it:
Posting here is a privilege, not a right.
You (and I) are guests in this house, and should act accordingly. I wouldn't walk into a gathering at your house and start talking shit about you, your friends, and your family to your guests. Why would you feel the need to do that in my friends 'house'? What kind of a person thinks its OK to do that? What kind of a person thinks they are the aggrieved party when they are politely asked to stop taking a 'piss in the punch bowl' as it were because the host wants everyone to have a good time?
We get that this is an emotional time for us fans. We want to give people freedom to vent a bit and express their opinions and emotions, but make NO mistake...if people can't be respectful and act like an adult then quite frankly, we don't need them here.
So a few words of advice to all who like to be part of this community..."Don't start nothin, won't be nothin."
That said...I have a question (and a suggestion) for you Marillac. I don't want a reply. My question is purely for reflective purposes, but I understand that you will need to have the last word so do what you have to do...
Why do you post here?
You start more crap with other posters and mods than just about anyone on the site. You go to other site(s) to whine about how poorly you are mistreated here and how bad "the mods" are to you and how much the site sucks. What's the point?
Now my suggestion...when you get demoted...and you will eventually...take it as a learning experience and a chance to change your behavior. When you get reinstated, do us all a favor and stay away from the punch bowl.