[quote="panther2" post=306169][quote="Mike Zaun" post=306156][quote="panther2" post=306118][quote="Mike Zaun" post=306111]Agree it's not a huge deal obviously, but just stating the fact that attire clearly affects perception whether or not that perception is fair or truthful. That's an innate fact of humans. If this were not true, people would wear PJ's to job interviews and at work. So it's not true that it doesn't have any effect on perception. Many studies in psych haven't been replicated well but this one has. Of course Belicheck, Jobs, Gates, etc. are exceptions to the rule. It's a faulty comparison to Mullin though, because he does not yet have all that winning capital under him as a coach unless you think Mullin's as successful a coach as Bill Gates is a businessman. Not harping on this, just find it interesting being in the field of psychology.[/quote]
I am not a psychologist but I have an ungergraduate degree in Human Service and Counseling from St Johns and a Masters Degree in Rehabilitation Counseling from NYU. One of the first things that I learned was never to be "Judgmental". I also learned that Perception is not Reality.
I have been to many games on the West Coast where coaches dress the way our staff did on Saturday. Not sure why this is a problem.
All I know is at the present time, we are 7-0. Were all the games easy, hell no, but somehow the team had the resilience to play hard and overcome their mistakes. Being down double figures and coming back to win shows mental fortitude. It is also a credit to the coaching staff because if they panicked, the players would also.
I believe that as the season progresses, the players will become a more cohesive unit.[/quote]
You can't actively choose to not judge people. Sort of an oxymoron. People judge...it's innate. For right or for wrong it's a fact of life. That's why it's subconscious and not conscious. We all make snap judgments whether or not we like admitting it. It's part of being human. Some are more judgmental than others, but no one is judgment free. Also, sometimes perception is reality and sometimes perception is not reality. You can correctly perceive that someone doesn't like you and they may in fact not like you. It's better IMO to present yourself the best you can so you don't have to even risk having people combating negative perceptions. In other words, why allow the opportunity to be perceived incorrectly? Just wear a suit and tie. If your daughter comes up to you and says she wants to get a tattoo of a skull on her forehead, there's a reason your first impulse will be to say "no". IMO instead of telling other people not to negatively judge, try to avoid giving anyone a reason to. We can't escape it regardless one way or another, but you might as well try to put your best foot forward.
That being said, I will give Mullin credit for the toughness this team has displayed early on. Have to give credit where it's due in that regard.[/quote]
Mike, hopefully the following will clarify it for you. Trayvon Martin was a young Black kid with a hoodie walking in a predominantly, he is up to no good, he gets killed. A young Black boy was in a store looking at an Air rifle, cops called, Black youth with a gun, he gets killed by the responding officer. More recently a Black Security officer stops a shooting in a club and is subduing the shooter, Black man with a gun, he gets killed by the responding officer. This is the danger of allowing perception to become reality.
Mike, when I see homeless people on the street, I don't judge them because I don't know how or why they ended up there. I have seen people who owned homes and then had the companies they worked for close or downsize and they ended up losing their homes. This is especially true for factory workers and those in the automobile industry.
Before I retired, a young Caucasian woman came into the hospital that I worked for homeless and strung out on heroin. When I spoke to her, I found out that she had been on a soccer scholarship at a University in Connecticut. She had an ACL and other injuries to her knee during her sophmore year. After surgery, she was prescribed painkillers and became addicted. Her family did not have insurance that would cover detox and rehab. The school would not pay for it either. She turned to heroin and ended up on the streets.
I am not sure what part of the Psychology field you are employed in, but hopefully you will learn that being judgmental and confusing perception with reality, is not healthy when working in the mental health field. It took me a while to figure this out also.[/quote]
This is taking a different turn, so I'm not going to get too into the hot-button stuff but yes those were all tragedies...each one was very sad. In some cases you have a lunatic with an itchy trigger finger. In some cases you get a lunatic cop who escalates the situation. In other cases you have people making very poor choices that get themselves into major trouble and the cops are forced to respond and make split second decisions. Be fair though and also look to the 5 Dallas police officers who were shot and killed one by one execution style because some lunatic pre-judged them and assumed they were evil people. It goes both ways and I agree that it's important not to judge as much as we can help it. As I said, it can be helped to an extent but unfortunately humans are not perfect creatures and never will be. That doesn't mean we can't keep trying of course. We're looking at the end of the spectrum examples here regarding judging others, however I will have to agree to disagree respectfully, not sure why asking a coach to dress professionally is a big deal. Many professions already expect it and understand the importance. Thanks for the reply Panther, I enjoy the discussion.
I was recently walking through a parking lot at night and there were only a few cars left. I saw a woman sitting in her car and I purposely did not get too close to her car, because I did not want her to perceive me as a threat as a man in a parking lot at night. I could've obviously gotten right up next to the car and if she stared at me suspiciously or fearfully, I could've lectured her about not judging people and how I have the right to do whatever I wanted. Obviously I had no ill intent if I walked close to the car, but I knew how she would perceive it most likely. So I walked the long way back to my car to avoid it.
