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Enjoy your time off from redmen. I hope whatever you are going through has a positive outcome.
There are a few fans here going through life changing events dealing with their health issues and those of loved ones so you are not alone.
The only advice I can give you is that as educated adults we have to be open minded on the internet and have the emotional maturity and strength to interact with a faceless community that has a common connection which, in this case, is St. John's basketball.
No one here is above another because they have friends in high places or because they think they are more fanatic about the program. The kid in red face screaming from the student section is the most important fan in my view. That kid may not have money for the red and white club or receptions or any allegiance to the coaches. He is there to support his fellow students who are playing their hardest for their school.
Taking a mental health break is great if when you return to posting you don't personalize things you read here. Being less accusatory in responses is also advised. Sparring on a fan board is not for everyone.
Most times fellow fans are being sarcastic about whatever their views are and not vitriolic as you may interpret them. Fans have come and gone here because they cannot accept views other than those they are comfortable with. While you were personalizing those views in the past you may not have realized others have more than defending basketball coaches going on in their lives. Hopefully this personal setback gives you some perspective vis-a-vis a basketball game and what really matters in our lives which begins with family. We are a family of sorts here.
A few years ago when my mom was battling pancreatic cancer I still posted and followed the debates here as a distraction. When I was diagnosed with cancer and went through surgery and months of radiation therapy I still came here for distraction. When Steve Lavin was diagnosed I reached out to him and referred my oncologist to him. He chose a more radical treatment and he spent months recovering from it. The mental stress was the hardest part to overcome. During that time I had no special allegiance to coach Lavin and took his dismissal like all the previous re-do's in staffing at SJ. When certain fans like FUN made light of our coach's cancer I was personally hurt and responded accordingly here. Those comments about a former coach were vitriolic.
Another poster routinely trashed our program and never attended the school and I verbally sparred with him here to the point of getting demoted. So, my love of the program has also caused me to write things I most likely would not have said to those posters in person. However, I was wrong to have engaged them to the extent I did.
You are a die hard fan and by extension you are part of a community here. Please don't take anything said here so seriously as to affect your health. It is not worth it.
There are a few fans here going through life changing events dealing with their health issues and those of loved ones so you are not alone.
The only advice I can give you is that as educated adults we have to be open minded on the internet and have the emotional maturity and strength to interact with a faceless community that has a common connection which, in this case, is St. John's basketball.
No one here is above another because they have friends in high places or because they think they are more fanatic about the program. The kid in red face screaming from the student section is the most important fan in my view. That kid may not have money for the red and white club or receptions or any allegiance to the coaches. He is there to support his fellow students who are playing their hardest for their school.
Taking a mental health break is great if when you return to posting you don't personalize things you read here. Being less accusatory in responses is also advised. Sparring on a fan board is not for everyone.
Most times fellow fans are being sarcastic about whatever their views are and not vitriolic as you may interpret them. Fans have come and gone here because they cannot accept views other than those they are comfortable with. While you were personalizing those views in the past you may not have realized others have more than defending basketball coaches going on in their lives. Hopefully this personal setback gives you some perspective vis-a-vis a basketball game and what really matters in our lives which begins with family. We are a family of sorts here.
A few years ago when my mom was battling pancreatic cancer I still posted and followed the debates here as a distraction. When I was diagnosed with cancer and went through surgery and months of radiation therapy I still came here for distraction. When Steve Lavin was diagnosed I reached out to him and referred my oncologist to him. He chose a more radical treatment and he spent months recovering from it. The mental stress was the hardest part to overcome. During that time I had no special allegiance to coach Lavin and took his dismissal like all the previous re-do's in staffing at SJ. When certain fans like FUN made light of our coach's cancer I was personally hurt and responded accordingly here. Those comments about a former coach were vitriolic.
Another poster routinely trashed our program and never attended the school and I verbally sparred with him here to the point of getting demoted. So, my love of the program has also caused me to write things I most likely would not have said to those posters in person. However, I was wrong to have engaged them to the extent I did.
You are a die hard fan and by extension you are part of a community here. Please don't take anything said here so seriously as to affect your health. It is not worth it.
