22 and 23 year olds getting married with no job

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First of all there was no "Other" category, so I hope this one suffices as it is off topic. Just wanted your two cents on this phenomenon. It seems I woke up one day, and it became engagement season. Many people I know including some close friends are starting to marry off now at 22-24. Maybe it's just me, but I find it ridiculous. Of course there is that couple or 2 who are high school and college sweethearts that everyone knew would get married but I'm not talking about those. A girl from college I knew met a guy online and said yes to his proposal without even knowing him for 1 full year! He is an exterminator (doesn't own the business) and never went to college. She has some low level 30k job. Another girl just married off and she's still in graduate school. One of my good friends is in med school and is marrying his fiance this year. I spoke to his father to congratulate him when I saw him but even he seemed more like "Wtf is he doing" than happy for him. I don't know man, it's a weird time...with next year still left in my grad program I haven't taken a breath from school yet I went straight from undergrad, so to see people marrying so young with no real jobs yet and tons of debt just shocks me.

I feel like I don't want to get married until my very late 20's, early 30's. I would rather get my MS degree, get a solid job, get my own place, and pay off a lot of debt/save money first before committing to something like that. For the life of me I just can't understand what the rush is...if you love each other you aren't going to leave each other, so it's not like it's an expiring offer. And also, let me just say I'm not jealous at all...it's just shocking to graduate college in 2011 playing beer pong and going to frat parties, then BAM 2 years after everyone is rushing to get married. I'm curious what you guys think of this whole thing and sorry again if I messed up the category to put this in.
 
First of all there was no "Other" category, so I hope this one suffices as it is off topic. Just wanted your two cents on this phenomenon. It seems I woke up one day, and it became engagement season. Many people I know including some close friends are starting to marry off now at 22-24. Maybe it's just me, but I find it ridiculous. Of course there is that couple or 2 who are high school and college sweethearts that everyone knew would get married but I'm not talking about those. A girl from college I knew met a guy online and said yes to his proposal without even knowing him for 1 full year! He is an exterminator (doesn't own the business) and never went to college. She has some low level 30k job. Another girl just married off and she's still in graduate school. One of my good friends is in med school and is marrying his fiance this year. I spoke to his father to congratulate him when I saw him but even he seemed more like "Wtf is he doing" than happy for him. I don't know man, it's a weird time...with next year still left in my grad program I haven't taken a breath from school yet I went straight from undergrad, so to see people marrying so young with no real jobs yet and tons of debt just shocks me.

I feel like I don't want to get married until my very late 20's, early 30's. I would rather get my MS degree, get a solid job, get my own place, and pay off a lot of debt/save money first before committing to something like that. For the life of me I just can't understand what the rush is...if you love each other you aren't going to leave each other, so it's not like it's an expiring offer. And also, let me just say I'm not jealous at all...it's just shocking to graduate college in 2011 playing beer pong and going to frat parties, then BAM 2 years after everyone is rushing to get married. I'm curious what you guys think of this whole thing and sorry again if I messed up the category to put this in.
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But to be fair, other people your age aren't as busy as you are. Heck your schedule is filled with grad school, beer pong, and posting on redmen.com. :)
 
First Joe, I am glad you have your head screwed on straight on this topic. I leave such personal decisions to the love birds. I would rather see a young couple get officially married in a church wedding rather than shacking up in daddy's basement for free and committing fornication within earshot of mommy and daddy but getting married that young is a rare occurrence these days as most 20 and 30 something's prefer to just live together. If they have the means, they are adults and God bless them....well maybe not God. LOL!
 
First of all there was no "Other" category, so I hope this one suffices as it is off topic. Just wanted your two cents on this phenomenon. It seems I woke up one day, and it became engagement season. Many people I know including some close friends are starting to marry off now at 22-24. Maybe it's just me, but I find it ridiculous. Of course there is that couple or 2 who are high school and college sweethearts that everyone knew would get married but I'm not talking about those. A girl from college I knew met a guy online and said yes to his proposal without even knowing him for 1 full year! He is an exterminator (doesn't own the business) and never went to college. She has some low level 30k job. Another girl just married off and she's still in graduate school. One of my good friends is in med school and is marrying his fiance this year. I spoke to his father to congratulate him when I saw him but even he seemed more like "Wtf is he doing" than happy for him. I don't know man, it's a weird time...with next year still left in my grad program I haven't taken a breath from school yet I went straight from undergrad, so to see people marrying so young with no real jobs yet and tons of debt just shocks me.

I feel like I don't want to get married until my very late 20's, early 30's. I would rather get my MS degree, get a solid job, get my own place, and pay off a lot of debt/save money first before committing to something like that. For the life of me I just can't understand what the rush is...if you love each other you aren't going to leave each other, so it's not like it's an expiring offer. And also, let me just say I'm not jealous at all...it's just shocking to graduate college in 2011 playing beer pong and going to frat parties, then BAM 2 years after everyone is rushing to get married. I'm curious what you guys think of this whole thing and sorry again if I messed up the category to put this in.
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Your priorities are right. Heck I've been with my fiancee for 8 years and we only got engaged a month ago.

I had the friends get married after college stage ( although they had jobs at the time so that's different thaan what you are saying is happening now )

This being said prepare for a lot of mi$ery coming up.

In order let me show how this is going to cost YOU

1. Your friends get engaged then decide to throw engagement party ( you will be forking over either cash or buying things where they are registered in order for the priviledge to attend this event )

2. You will have a bachelor party to attend ( although I'd say this one is a very worthwhile expense in your early years but once you go to the one where the girl shoots hard boiled eggs out of her you know what and you hit them on the way out with a wiffle ball bat it all kind of pales in comparison after that )

3. Those same friends then a year later get married ( beyond expensive since this will be a cash only event and you will be paying for 2 people unless you know there will be some hot single girls at the wedding. )

3.75 If you are in the wedding party you're renting a tux also ( just buy one now unless you plan on getting fat like us and cant fit into a medium anymore. lol )- actually scratch that. Each wedding you are going to be getting matching tuxedos for the wedding party so you are screwed no matter what

4. Then those broke friends of yours will start popping out babies and you are buying presents for them when they are born

5. Then you are going to have the great pleasure of being single and being invited to the ultimate single guys nightmare. ( The annual kid birthday parties ). So every year you are going to get a big envelope in the mail and slowly opening it with dread wondering whose birthday it is this time.

Then you will go buy the gift and show up at this birthday party in the middle of a saturday or sunday afternoon ( most likely hungover ) with some of your friends ( most likely not many because the smart ones who already have kids are smart enough to cancel on the party coming up with the perfect excuse-MY KID DOESNT FEEL WELL ) thus leaving you stuck at this party with a bunch of people you don't know with a bunch of kids running around with a big purple barney dinosaur singing and the only single girls there are staring you down not because they want to bang you but because they are now trying to figure out if you are the guy who is going to father their future kids.

6. Then comes marriage problems and now you have to go out with your friends as they dont want to stay at home and no matter what day it is as long as they arent home so be prepared to go out a lot.

7. Then comes the divorce and your friend now really needs to go out all the time ( be prepared to hear about how your friend never wants to get married ever again and just plans on banging every available girl )

8. One year later those same friends are all now engaged again and the cycle starts all over again
 
I went to similar Bachelor party years ago but the groom had to catch the egg in his mouth! I remember the girl was Spanish so the egg was both salty and spicy according to his taste test.
 
First of all there was no "Other" category, so I hope this one suffices as it is off topic. Just wanted your two cents on this phenomenon. It seems I woke up one day, and it became engagement season. Many people I know including some close friends are starting to marry off now at 22-24. Maybe it's just me, but I find it ridiculous. Of course there is that couple or 2 who are high school and college sweethearts that everyone knew would get married but I'm not talking about those. A girl from college I knew met a guy online and said yes to his proposal without even knowing him for 1 full year! He is an exterminator (doesn't own the business) and never went to college. She has some low level 30k job. Another girl just married off and she's still in graduate school. One of my good friends is in med school and is marrying his fiance this year. I spoke to his father to congratulate him when I saw him but even he seemed more like "Wtf is he doing" than happy for him. I don't know man, it's a weird time...with next year still left in my grad program I haven't taken a breath from school yet I went straight from undergrad, so to see people marrying so young with no real jobs yet and tons of debt just shocks me.

I feel like I don't want to get married until my very late 20's, early 30's. I would rather get my MS degree, get a solid job, get my own place, and pay off a lot of debt/save money first before committing to something like that. For the life of me I just can't understand what the rush is...if you love each other you aren't going to leave each other, so it's not like it's an expiring offer. And also, let me just say I'm not jealous at all...it's just shocking to graduate college in 2011 playing beer pong and going to frat parties, then BAM 2 years after everyone is rushing to get married. I'm curious what you guys think of this whole thing and sorry again if I messed up the category to put this in.
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Your priorities are right. Heck I've been with my fiancee for 8 years and we only got engaged a month ago.

I had the friends get married after college stage ( although they had jobs at the time so that's different thaan what you are saying is happening now )

This being said prepare for a lot of mi$ery coming up.

In order let me show how this is going to cost YOU

1. Your friends get engaged then decide to throw engagement party ( you will be forking over either cash or buying things where they are registered in order for the priviledge to attend this event )

2. You will have a bachelor party to attend ( although I'd say this one is a very worthwhile expense in your early years but once you go to the one where the girl shoots hard boiled eggs out of her you know what and you hit them on the way out with a wiffle ball bat it all kind of pales in comparison after that )

3. Those same friends then a year later get married ( beyond expensive since this will be a cash only event and you will be paying for 2 people unless you know there will be some hot single girls at the wedding. )

3.75 If you are in the wedding party you're renting a tux also ( just buy one now unless you plan on getting fat like us and cant fit into a medium anymore. lol )- actually scratch that. Each wedding you are going to be getting matching tuxedos for the wedding party so you are screwed no matter what

4. Then those broke friends of yours will start popping out babies and you are buying presents for them when they are born

5. Then you are going to have the great pleasure of being single and being invited to the ultimate single guys nightmare. ( The annual kid birthday parties ). So every year you are going to get a big envelope in the mail and slowly opening it with dread wondering whose birthday it is this time.

Then you will go buy the gift and show up at this birthday party in the middle of a saturday or sunday afternoon ( most likely hungover ) with some of your friends ( most likely not many because the smart ones who already have kids are smart enough to cancel on the party coming up with the perfect excuse-MY KID DOESNT FEEL WELL ) thus leaving you stuck at this party with a bunch of people you don't know with a bunch of kids running around with a big purple barney dinosaur singing and the only single girls there are staring you down not because they want to bang you but because they are now trying to figure out if you are the guy who is going to father their future kids.

6. Then comes marriage problems and now you have to go out with your friends as they dont want to stay at home and no matter what day it is as long as they arent home so be prepared to go out a lot.

7. Then comes the divorce and your friend now really needs to go out all the time ( be prepared to hear about how your friend never wants to get married ever again and just plans on banging every available girl )

8. One year later those same friends are all now engaged again and the cycle starts all over again
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Don't think I've ever read a post that A) almost made me throw up my lunch (the egg home run hitter) B ) made me laugh and C) made me want to jump off the Whitestone Bridge all at the same time haha. Some of what you said reminds me of the movies Old School and Wedding Crashers. It's definitely a weird time because you are so used to being at the same stage in life as people you know, yet now some are in school, some work at Old Navy, some have great jobs, some have kids, and some just got engaged. Meanwhile I can't resist stopping the channel when I see Spongebob on. If there's anything I've learned it's that women are absolutely insane, and you should let the crazy ones have kids and marry right away and hopefully more level-headed, fiscally-responsible women remain. I know I'm seen as the young buck on here, but if I had it my way, I'd time travel back to just after WWII in the mid to late 1940's because the dating scene was much more straightforward and everything seemed so much more clear cut. Between texting, skyping, instant messaging, etc. no one has time to get to know each other anymore. Sad, but true. I guess I'm more old-fashioned. I'd rather take a girl to a movie and dinner and get to know her seeing if we are compatible versus seeing a drunk girl at a bar, taking her back to my dorm room, hooking up with her then kicking her out in the morning.>-)
 
First of all there was no "Other" category, so I hope this one suffices as it is off topic. Just wanted your two cents on this phenomenon. It seems I woke up one day, and it became engagement season. Many people I know including some close friends are starting to marry off now at 22-24. Maybe it's just me, but I find it ridiculous. Of course there is that couple or 2 who are high school and college sweethearts that everyone knew would get married but I'm not talking about those. A girl from college I knew met a guy online and said yes to his proposal without even knowing him for 1 full year! He is an exterminator (doesn't own the business) and never went to college. She has some low level 30k job. Another girl just married off and she's still in graduate school. One of my good friends is in med school and is marrying his fiance this year. I spoke to his father to congratulate him when I saw him but even he seemed more like "Wtf is he doing" than happy for him. I don't know man, it's a weird time...with next year still left in my grad program I haven't taken a breath from school yet I went straight from undergrad, so to see people marrying so young with no real jobs yet and tons of debt just shocks me.

I feel like I don't want to get married until my very late 20's, early 30's. I would rather get my MS degree, get a solid job, get my own place, and pay off a lot of debt/save money first before committing to something like that. For the life of me I just can't understand what the rush is...if you love each other you aren't going to leave each other, so it's not like it's an expiring offer. And also, let me just say I'm not jealous at all...it's just shocking to graduate college in 2011 playing beer pong and going to frat parties, then BAM 2 years after everyone is rushing to get married. I'm curious what you guys think of this whole thing and sorry again if I messed up the category to put this in.
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Your priorities are right. Heck I've been with my fiancee for 8 years and we only got engaged a month ago.

I had the friends get married after college stage ( although they had jobs at the time so that's different thaan what you are saying is happening now )

This being said prepare for a lot of mi$ery coming up.

In order let me show how this is going to cost YOU

1. Your friends get engaged then decide to throw engagement party ( you will be forking over either cash or buying things where they are registered in order for the priviledge to attend this event )

2. You will have a bachelor party to attend ( although I'd say this one is a very worthwhile expense in your early years but once you go to the one where the girl shoots hard boiled eggs out of her you know what and you hit them on the way out with a wiffle ball bat it all kind of pales in comparison after that )

3. Those same friends then a year later get married ( beyond expensive since this will be a cash only event and you will be paying for 2 people unless you know there will be some hot single girls at the wedding. )

3.75 If you are in the wedding party you're renting a tux also ( just buy one now unless you plan on getting fat like us and cant fit into a medium anymore. lol )- actually scratch that. Each wedding you are going to be getting matching tuxedos for the wedding party so you are screwed no matter what

4. Then those broke friends of yours will start popping out babies and you are buying presents for them when they are born

5. Then you are going to have the great pleasure of being single and being invited to the ultimate single guys nightmare. ( The annual kid birthday parties ). So every year you are going to get a big envelope in the mail and slowly opening it with dread wondering whose birthday it is this time.

Then you will go buy the gift and show up at this birthday party in the middle of a saturday or sunday afternoon ( most likely hungover ) with some of your friends ( most likely not many because the smart ones who already have kids are smart enough to cancel on the party coming up with the perfect excuse-MY KID DOESNT FEEL WELL ) thus leaving you stuck at this party with a bunch of people you don't know with a bunch of kids running around with a big purple barney dinosaur singing and the only single girls there are staring you down not because they want to bang you but because they are now trying to figure out if you are the guy who is going to father their future kids.

6. Then comes marriage problems and now you have to go out with your friends as they dont want to stay at home and no matter what day it is as long as they arent home so be prepared to go out a lot.

7. Then comes the divorce and your friend now really needs to go out all the time ( be prepared to hear about how your friend never wants to get married ever again and just plans on banging every available girl )

8. One year later those same friends are all now engaged again and the cycle starts all over again
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So true, so true, and no, love does not conquer all.
 
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